What Can I Tell Me Children?

Avoid scary details. You know more than your children need to know. Use language that is honest and age-appropriate (i.e. "there are people who do bad things to children"). Include general information, as this may protect them from others who would try to harm them as well.

If your children are likely to have contact with an Sexual Violent Preditor or other Registered Sex Offenders, you should show your children the Sex Offender's photo. In a Manner that does not incite panic, instruct your children to avoid all contact with the offender, even if the offender's conviction does not involve an offense against a child. Instruct them to avoid being in the vicinity of the offender's residence or workplace.

Encourage your children to tell you if the sex offender initiates contact with them. Review the public safety materials with your children and encourage your children to tell you about any contact with an offender or any other person who makes them feel uncomfortable. It is important to teach your children about appropriate and inappropriate contact and to encourage regular discussion about their interactions with other people.

Do's & Don'ts
Teach your children the following:
  • Do tell a safe adult if anyone acts inappropriately toward them (I.E. creepy, too friendly, threatening, offering gifts in a secret way, or touching them)
  • Do run, scream, and get away if someone is bothering them
  • Do ask questions
  • Do talk about any uncomfortable feelings or interactions
  • Don't take rides from strangers
  • Don't harass or visit any sex offender's home or property
  • Don't keep secrets
  • Don't assist strangers
  • Don't go places alone
Helpful Tips
Make it a habit to listen to your children and to believe them. If a child feels listened to and believed about small everyday things, they are more likely to share the big scary things with you. Be sensitive to changes in your child's behavior. Pay attention to your child's feelings and thoughts.

Role-play safety scenarios with your child. Act out scenarios of various dangerous situations and teach them how to respond (i.e. home alone and someone comes to the door; separated from Mom in the toy store and a man comes up to talk to them; or chatting on the Internet and they are asked for their home address).